Id ask myself how I will feel when the guy is gone. If I accept him reaching out and reconnect, will I be upset at myself and feel like I let him walk all over me again? If I dont respond to him reaching out, will I be upset that I didnt have one final chance to talk to my former friend?
I had a similar situation to yours and did reconnect. I wish I hadnt. Im now over it but for a long time wanted to go piss on their grave.
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Originally Posted by hayduke's dad
A very good friend of mine screwed me over years ago. Long story short he damaged my sea-doo and refused to cover repairs. Cost me about $5000 in the late 90's. After a long battle with trying to work things out he wouldn't move on his stance. Seeing we weren't friends anymore I took him to small claims court. Before it was decided on by judge I tried one last call to work it out before a ruling. Again he declined. I ended up winning. He paid me sporadically $50 a month for a couple years then never paid again. with interest he still owes over $7000 now. I never pursued making him pay or garnishing his wages even after all that he became an officer of the law.
Recently he has been diagnosed with cancer and outlook isn't good. He sends me a Facebook message after not talking for 15+ years saying he misses our friendship and wants to be friends seeing he doesn't know how much time he has left. No apology no sorry.
Am I expecting to much? I feel bad for him as he could die with young kids but he chose not to ever call me back. I am torn in how to reply.
What would you do?
Not reply?
Tell him he was one who chose the path? Good Luck?
Give in and tell him it's ok lets be friends?
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