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Originally Posted by Dion
It's only a hostage situation if you choose to see it that way.
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No, its only a hostage situation if you allow them to exercise their ability to guilt trip you based on the fact that he's dying. By not falling for it you don't give them power.
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Originally Posted by Dion
Anger, grudges and such are wasted emotions that only hurt the person who has it. It doesn't hurt the person and your personal feelings won't have much effect on his dying.
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Thanks, I only posted about that very sentiment early on in the thread. Its possible to not want to associate with someone and have anger play no part in the decision. Some people do have that ability.
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Originally Posted by Dion
A person could do the unselfish thing and help this person pass on. He may not thank you or even care but that's not what this is about. It's about doing what's right and the peace you will feel when it's all over.
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Or perhaps his former friend could not be selfish and attempt to get his house in order while doing what he needs to do to set things right. I think its a jerk move by his former friend to reach out that way if his first sentiment isn't "I'm sorry" then he's just trying to assuage his own guilt. Maybe you think that the fact that he has cancer is a pass but I don't. Jerks are jerks even if they are dying.
I'm not saying to put the former friend on blast but it is okay to not reconcile and put your own well being ahead of his. You can forgive but you don't have to forget. They haven't been friends for 15 years. He owes him nothing but a courteous "Sorry to hear about your situation. Hope things go as well as they can for you."