You'll have to be the one that decides what the best course of action is. You know the personalities and the background the best. Obviously it weighs on you because you are seeking advice. He did act like an irresponsible dick and didn't value your friendship. However, if it was me I might be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt far enough that I'd respond to him. I can only imagine what living with a cancer diagnosis is like, but if it was me I would probably want to set things right with an old friend that I screwed over. Maybe that isn't what his plan is, but if you agree to go out for a drink with him that doesn't mean that you are agreeing to be best friends again. How would you feel if died and his widow later told you that he really wanted to set things right with you and you didn't even respond to him? If you meet him for a beer and he doesn't even bring up his screw up or tells you that you were in the wrong, well then you've confirmed that he is a dick and I'd put in a claim against his estate for judgement on the amount owed and not feel guilty about doing it in the least.
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