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Originally Posted by Wastedyouth
I'm struggling to respond to all this.
On one hand, I'm thinking "Why the hell didn't these women just walk away or hang up?"
But that is blaming the victim. Which I don't want to do. But I just can't fathom the mindset that anyone would continue to let that happen to them if they didn't want it. Which leads me down some negative thought paths, such as, were they really that disgusted at the time, or is now the time to seize the opportunity to enter the lime light?
On the other hand, I think "If a women in power that I admired started masturbating in front of me, I'm not sure I would be that upset, and I'd either laugh and walk away or see where it goes."
And I guess thats why it is incredibly difficult for women. We, as men, can't necessarily relate completely to these types of situations because societally, we have had all the power forever.
I feel bad for these women of course. And I think I am trying to be a better person by trying to understand and change my mindset to realize how ####ed up its been in our society for women for basically the entirety of our history, instead of sloughing it off as "women being overly emotional".
Sorry for the verbal diarrhea. Just trying to process this current craziness!
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I don't think it's necessarily victim blaming to identify what women (or men) could do differently to prevent or limit the degree in which they are victimized. The most obvious one I mentioned earlier is young starlets shouldn't be accepting business meetings in hotel rooms. It's a very naive thing to do, if not flat out stupid. And not hanging up if somebody is wacking off into the phone - yeah, that too is dumb.
Hollywood is making all the headlines for this stuff right now, but I'm with a lot of people that assume this is likely more prevalent everywhere else and it's just coming to light more now. I hope this results in more education for would-be perpetrators, but more importantly, for victims. Bad dudes are going to be bad dudes, so education may not get through to the guys that are going to do their thing regardless.
What I'd like to see is education for women to prevent them from being victims. I'd much rather arm my daughter with strategies and red flags to be aware of instead of hoping a predator doesn't prey on her. I can tell you after all this Hollywood stuff has come out I will be sure to advise her not to take meetings in hotel rooms. Seems obvious, but apparently a lot of women didn't get taught that. Once all these stories come out, hopefully we'll get a clearer picture of what we can do to empower people to not become victims.