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Originally Posted by rotten42
I don't really agree. If someone has had a negative impact on my life I have no problem walking away from them and not looking bask. I can think of two people specifically that I thought were good friends but turned out not to be. They caused a lot of grief so I made the decision just to move on. No looking back...no wondering if I made the right decision...no second thought.
It is just something I will do. Remove the negative people from my life and concentrate on the positive people. Forgiveness has nothing to do with it.
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There’s nothing wrong with simply removing negative people from your life. Forgiveness is not for them, it’s for you.
I don’t view what you describe as truly moving on, not when you still hold negative feelings towards them and still bring up the grief they caused you. But to each their own.
I think people think forgiveness is all about giving something to the other person. It is partially that, but (not to sound sentimental) it’s also very much about giving something to yourself. Even if the OP doesn this reach out, it’s important to forgive his dying ex-friend before he passes for him, not for his friend.