Let me add some perspective.
In my early 20's my best friend going back to kindergarten slept with my GF I was living with when I was out of town. We had a massive blowout, it ended the relationship, I was out 10's of thousands of dollars as I moved out of a house we had bought a year earlier, and did some major improvements on. Finished the basement, deck, fence, landscaping etc.... This was a lot more than 7g's on a Seadoo, it displaced my life, and I was pretty damn depressed. I held a grudge for about a decade. To be honest, I was more mad at him, than her.
When we did cross paths in Home Depot I think it was, he looked nervous as hell, like I was gonna punch him out, but I just walked up, shook his hand, and said "Hey man... thanks for helping me dodge that bullet 10 years ago. Looks like we both did." As it turns out, the girl in the middle of this' life ended up becoming a dumpster fire train wreck as the years went on. We chuckled, shared phone numbers, and added each other on Facebook. Slowly we mended things, and let the past be the past. A 20 year friendship wasn't worth throwing away over a stupid mistake made in someones early 20's where we all make boneheaded decisions.
5 years ago our family suffered a pretty big tragedy, and the first guy to jump to the plate and offer assistance, and just be there was him. In that couple weeks, the support and friendship he gave me, out weighed what happened in the past by 1000 X. It was like having a brother step in when I had lost one.
Don't hold grudges, especially over money. People make mistakes, and if I've learned anything over the years, forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give, especially to a dying man.
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