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Originally Posted by hayduke's dad
Seeing we weren't friends anymore I took him to small claims court. Before it was decided on by judge I tried one last call to work it out before a ruling. Again he declined.
Recently he has been diagnosed with cancer and outlook isn't good. He sends me a Facebook message after not talking for 15+ years saying he misses our friendship and wants to be friends seeing he doesn't know how much time he has left.
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Umm... Not friends anymore 15 years ago. And now you're facebook friends? or how did you get the message?
I would definitely look at the 2 posts below; define whether this he has any meaning to you anymore. Are you looking at his message thinking "this deadbeat is still making excuses over the money" or are you thinking "yea I miss him too?"
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Originally Posted by calf
Ask yourself how you'd feel if he passed tomorrow and you didn't reach out today. What if you did reach out - what would you say?
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If you choose to reach out, do the following.
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Originally Posted by Dion
I would express my feelings in an honest and open way by saying that what he did and his failure to pay for the damages was the reason why the friendship ended. Give him a chance to reflect on that and see if he does apologise.
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Moving from there:
-Do you accept his apology?
-Is he a friend again? Are you gonna stick around until the end?
-Is just someone that you no longer have a grudge against and have no feelings towards, and this was just closure for you?