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wittynickname · 10-23-2017, 02:58 PM

I think there's a disconnect here, because of the fact that "harassment" is included, certain people think that most of these #metoo claims are "oh some guy told me I had a great rack at a bar and I was offended."

I'm sure there are some of those as well, but most of the #metoo experiences from the women I know are far, far worse.

My mother was between the ages of 10 and 13 when she was molested by her father and two adult cousins.

My sister was drugged and assaulted while out drinking with a group of supposed friends, who then dropped her off--underwear stuck on her head rather than on her body where they started the night--at 4 am.

A co-worker had a boyfriend get her super drunk and took her virginity--filmed it and then showed said video to all of his friends.

Another co-worker was roofied at a bar, but fortunately her friends got her out of there before she was a "real" victim.

A friend was in the process of marriage counseling, trying to save her relationship, when she woke one morning to her husband already in the process of having sex with her.

Another friend had an ex-boyfriend who was violently abusive, who she'd have sex with solely so she didn't get beat up.

I've had friends who have been hit on or groped on the train home after work, and when they've tried to decline, have had their safety threatened to the point where they got off at a busier, different stop with better lighting or more security presence just because they're terrified that their harasser will do far worse than call them a b**** or a slut or whatever.

This is not "oh some ugly guy hit on me at a club and I didn't like it." That is not what this is about. Do men regularly walk to their car in the evening with car keys between their fingers in case someone attacks them, they can do maximum damage with a single punch? Have they learned the best way to get away from someone attacking from behind so he can incapacitate them and run for help? When he goes on a blind/Tinder/Bumble date, does he get in touch with several friends/family members to make them aware of where he's going, when he should be home, what time to call to for a safety check, etc, because he's afraid he won't be safe?

These are real things that women think about on a daily basis.

10-23-2017, 02:58 PM	#340
wittynickname wittyusertitle Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Exp:	I think there's a disconnect here, because of the fact that "harassment" is included, certain people think that most of these #metoo claims are "oh some guy told me I had a great rack at a bar and I was offended." I'm sure there are some of those as well, but most of the #metoo experiences from the women I know are far, far worse. My mother was between the ages of 10 and 13 when she was molested by her father and two adult cousins. My sister was drugged and assaulted while out drinking with a group of supposed friends, who then dropped her off--underwear stuck on her head rather than on her body where they started the night--at 4 am. A co-worker had a boyfriend get her super drunk and took her virginity--filmed it and then showed said video to all of his friends. Another co-worker was roofied at a bar, but fortunately her friends got her out of there before she was a "real" victim. A friend was in the process of marriage counseling, trying to save her relationship, when she woke one morning to her husband already in the process of having sex with her. Another friend had an ex-boyfriend who was violently abusive, who she'd have sex with solely so she didn't get beat up. I've had friends who have been hit on or groped on the train home after work, and when they've tried to decline, have had their safety threatened to the point where they got off at a busier, different stop with better lighting or more security presence just because they're terrified that their harasser will do far worse than call them a b**** or a slut or whatever. This is not "oh some ugly guy hit on me at a club and I didn't like it." That is not what this is about. Do men regularly walk to their car in the evening with car keys between their fingers in case someone attacks them, they can do maximum damage with a single punch? Have they learned the best way to get away from someone attacking from behind so he can incapacitate them and run for help? When he goes on a blind/Tinder/Bumble date, does he get in touch with several friends/family members to make them aware of where he's going, when he should be home, what time to call to for a safety check, etc, because he's afraid he won't be safe? These are real things that women think about on a daily basis.