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The cavern between not speaking to any women at all ever for fear of offending her and telling a coworker she has a great ass is massive. Massive.

No one in this thread is suggesting some puritanical world whereby we only marry via arrangement. Women in this thread are merely suggesting that if you're interested in a woman, there's a drastic difference between conversing with her for a few moments, gauging interest, and then perhaps adding a compliment--your hair is lovely, you have pretty eyes, can I buy you a drink--and telling a girl she's got a nice rack as a pickup line.

Women can be and are sexual beings. Many women I know have higher libidos than the some of the men I know. But that doesn't mean those women want to be yelled at while on the street or groped on the bus. There is a canyon of difference between what women are saying here, and the black-and-white view that certain posters in this thread are espousing.

And if you can't understand why women don't come forward about sexual assault and harassment--look at what happens when assault or harassment does come out. For example, Brock Turner was literally caught in the act of assaulting an unconscious woman, by two witnesses. He got a slap on the wrist for it. Betsy DeVos has made it so that if a college student accuses someone of rape/assault--his or her sexual history can be called into question, his or her name can be dragged through the mud. Beyond just reliving the trauma, victims are put on trial themselves. In a case such as women being harassed and assaulted by someone like Weinstein, they were facing a person with immense power over their careers and futures.

It's not so simple as reporting that someone stole your wallet.