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Originally Posted by 81MC
If my buddy looks sharp, or has good hair or has dope shoes or is classically handsome, you bet. But I rarely, never in fact, have told a guy I get lost in their eyes, or love the way they smell, or think they have a great butt. But I also never happen to find myself in a situation with a guy where any of those would be appropriate...you know, obviously because I'm a homophobic masogonist.
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It's funny. Maybe it's just my group of friends who have been friends since childhood, but we regularly compliment each other to the point that it would definitely be considered harassment if they were the opposite sex or strangers.
Buddy's lost weight? "Dude, you're looking f***ing hot! Nice job man!"
Give a bro a hug? "Man, you smell nice. What cologne is that?"
All the way to pinching each other's butts, cat calling each other, making very homoerotic comments, etc...
Like I said there's a comfort level there from childhood friends that obviously gives us more freedom with each other, but I know that my Dad and his friends were absolutely never like that. Not sure what that means for our perspective on women and their role in that type of relationship (there are women, girlfriends, potential sexual partners etc.. all around during these types of things). We never objectify our female friends that way, but we would definitely comment if they look particularly well-dressed for an event or something. For example, a lot of my friends are getting married recently so when I see people they tend to be dressed to the nines. Tough not to compliment regardless of gender. If one of my university friends that I haven't seen in a year or so shows up to a wedding in a beautiful dress I will likely say hi, tell her she looks amazing and then proceed to ask her about what she has going on. I guess the argument could be made you can cut out the comment on their looks, but I mean we all put effort into how we look. I find it odd it could be considered wrong to make a passing compliment to a friend.
In a way I think that we objectify each other (me and my male friends) just to show a general attitude of openness. It's kind of a strange phenomena now that I sit here and think about it. This might belong more in the Bromance thread.