[Peanut]

I apologize I derailed things a bit with the gendered discussion. Someone mentioned that maybe we, as a society, need to focus less on women's appearances and on women as objects. I was sharing my perspective (slash informal research) on some of the common genderized pitfalls that many of us fall into. Myself included, although I'm trying to be better all the time.

The specific discussion around "focus on appearances" of young girls - I didn't mean that people are crossing boundaries or being inappropriate (in the vast majority of cases). The issue is that it little girls are hearing, from basically everyone, all the time, Comments and compliments about their appearance. This does not happen to boys to nearly the same extent. So the logic is that we (society in general) are priming our girls and boys to understand that "appearances/looks" are vastly more important for girls & women than they are for boys & men. Which therefore ultimately contributes to the objectification of women and the emphasis on beauty and youth.

It really is a separate tangent from the specific message of "me too". But the point was the messaging to women that their appearance is penultimate starts innocuously and very young.