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Originally Posted by CorsiHockeyLeague
Sure. This is a nuanced, common sense approach. In other words, this is good advice for that situation. The problem I see - well, one of a number of problems - is the oversimplification of complex human interactions that are based on unexpressed signals. When you take good advice like the above, and reduce it to "never make a comment to someone you're sexually attracted to unless you'd also make it to someone you weren't sexually attracted to", not only is that unrealistic and facile, it's quintessentially repressive. It treats sexual attraction as some bugbear we should all be constantly on guard against. That in itself is something not to take lightly.
More important still, it's easier to demonize, broad-brush and scapegoat than it is to actually understand complex human behaviour. People are constantly looking for simple answers on moral issues - the mob gets carried away rather than reflecting on the various shades of gray (pun not intended) inherent in what we're discussing, which is probably the most agnoized-about subject in human history besides "why are we here".
But like I say, this whole discussion is so charged and moralistic, rather than actually participate fully in the various aspects that could found the basis of an interesting conversation, I think I'm just going to stick with the woods.
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Not to mention, along with the inherent complexity of interaction among people is, at a bar, you generally have alcohol in copious quantities thrown in...which is totally known to really help folks make complex, nuanced decisions...