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Originally Posted by 81MC
On the other hand, if you only ever tell your date/lover/spouse you find their commodities attractive, I don't think that's a good sign. Objectifying people is not good, but going the other way so our children think stuff and things are the way to get noticed, I don't agree with. If you really can't say a nice compliment about someone's appearance, maybe their personality is a better place to start than their store bought goods. Nothing wrong with telling a lady she has nice shoes or a great jacket, but I can't see how that's better than nice eyes or a great smile.
Is there not a sensible middle ground where we can accept and enjoy the beauty around us? I'm a guy who finds women attractive, and if I'm close with someone I think is beautiful, I'll say it (assuming I think they'd be receptive to it and would like to hear it). Are we that ridiculously unrefined and unaware that the only way to avoid sexually harassing someone is to stop interacting on a human level and ignoring the fact most of us are physiologically attracted to other human beings?
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Originally Posted by Red Slinger
Do you compliment men on their appearance too? If not, why not?
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I won't answer for him, but for me, no I don't compliment men because I don't find them attractive. I also don't complement woman I am not seeing on their appearance. I will comment to friends sometimes on things like, nice hair cut or a nice outfit because they like the compliments.