I was in a grimly bad marriage for 14 years, the divorce was, for me, an absolute god send, it wasn't for my daughter, I was the stable parent, my ex a wack job and once out of the house I was unable to manage any of that, my daughter got to deal with the full weight of a bi polar parent.
If I could have managed it I would have kept it together for another 10 years so my daughter could have had more stable teen's, wasn't possible, wasn't my choice.
My daughters fine and thinks she was better off being able to bail to my house when things got too crazy at mums, I logged hundreds of thousands of km's on the truck making sure I saw her every day either for lunch or overnights (sharing custody)
I dated casually but no girlfriend met my daughter and it killed pretty well every relationship until my girl had grown up. None of which I regret, in the end I made the best of a bad situation and my daughters fine but if you are going to be a good dad, one way or the other, in the marriage or out you have to put your own needs aside and put your kids first.
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