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Originally Posted by Wormius
But, you must know somebody that she knows from the wedding. She was either invited by the groom or bride. Bring it up with one of them, and see if they can arrange something that would get you guys in the same room again. Or just ask to pass along your number / contact info to her because you liked her. Or put in a request for her contact info. That is, ask a mutual friend to ask her if you can get her number or something.
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This is absolutely the best response in the entire thread, coming from a woman's point of view. I loathe having my number given out without my knowledge. Find a family member/friend who was at the wedding, figure out who knows her and how, and contact them and throw out a line that you're interested. Offer to give them your number to pass along to her, or have them
ask her if it's okay to give you her number.
To me it feels like an invasion of privacy to just have my number given out without warning me. (But then I've had creepy guys who wouldn't stop calling/texting me excessively before, so I have bad experiences with that)
I would much prefer to have the guy's number given to me, so then I can make the decision whether to call/text or not.
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Originally Posted by Flashpoint
Flowers is needy.
Phone her like a man and ask her out. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, then bring flowers.
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I would say this depends on age. If she is over the age of 40, go for it. Under 40, to just call a woman out of the blue--this might seem excessively forward, and thus a flag goes up.
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Originally Posted by Da_Chief
Call where she works and ask to speak to her. Ask her out. She'll say yes. Profit.
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I'm not sure if this is a serious suggestion or not, but oh no, don't do this. Don't call a woman's workplace and ask to speak with her for a date. Beyond potentially getting her in trouble, depending on workplace protocol, to me that would be
intensely creepy.
Flowers at work? Absolutely fine. A personal phone call at work? No way.
Spoken as a woman: either try to get in touch with her via mutual friends/family members/wedding contacts, or flowers at work with a small note and your number, those are your ways to go. Neither seems desperate or creepy. The flowers, honestly, would be a nice touch. Small romantic gesture, and then the ball is in her court and she can control whether or not to respond.