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Originally Posted by ToewsFan
In Western Culture, Men are taught to "toughen it out" and "deal with it." How well has that worked out in North America? Maybe contact the families of Rick Rypien, Derek Boogaard, or Wade Belak and tell them Men's resources are not needed. Obviously having a resource centre is not going to cure everything, but it can be helpful in prevention of suicides, drug abuse, domestic violence, and other issues that Men with problems go through.
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I think boys in school are being taught to move away from that way of thinking. There are some benefits to the old way of thinking though.
20 years ago my friends mother was one of the directors at the Mustard Seed. Lots of interesting stories. She told me that there were usually about twice as many male clients as female. Then she told me that despite having way more resources available, a new female client is about three times more likely to stay homeless than a new male client.
Why is that? How can anyone really know for sure? But her thought on it was this. When a man becomes homeless he will usually dig himself out of the hole he has dug himself into. He knows that nobody is going to bail him out. They would take the free steel toed boots and usually would be gone in about a month. Whereas as the female clients were more likely to do nothing more than talk about how they much have been abused and hope that somebody would come rescue them.
I really think that most times the best solution to a problem is "tough it out" and most importantly "deal with it". How well has that worked out in North America? It's not perfect but all in all I'd say it worked out OK.
Very interesting thread. My take is that there are already too many places a person can go to and be a victim. Maybe in the long run men would be better off without ?