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Originally Posted by Eastern Girl
I am starting to see why people feel lonely and isolated, or even suicidal, based on the perceptions of people in this thread.
Why is the only explanation for someone being unmarried past 30 that they are in some way a complete reject, either mentally or physically? Why can't it be that I don't want to marry or that I haven't met the one I would want to marry? It doesn't have to just be that you are "what's left," and therefore you should be happy to accept anything with a mild heart beat.
And for the record, just cause you are married, doesn't make you a prize either kiddo, or in some way better than us old unmarrieds. You can be single and a complete catch or married an a complete and utter loser. Let's just get that straight.
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The number one reason most middle aged people aren't married is probably economic. We go broke getting an education and then get wrapped up in our careers to both justify and pay back the brutal debts. Before people realize it, they are pushing 40. I didn't get married until my 30s and had my kid when I was almost 40, so I can relate.
But it is a sad truth that the dating pool gets shallower when you get older. People marry, people die, women demographically outnumber men the older they get older (more competition for mates), younger women going for older men, and some people just like the single life. Heck, even meeting new friends as an adult is difficult because the older people get, they lose energy and become jaded.