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Originally Posted by Eastern Girl
I am starting to see why people feel lonely and isolated, or even suicidal, based on the perceptions of people in this thread.
Why is the only explanation for someone being unmarried past 30 that they are in some way a complete reject, either mentally or physically? Why can't it be that I don't want to marry or that I haven't met the one I would want to marry? It doesn't have to just be that you are "what's left," and therefore you should be happy to accept anything with a mild heart beat.
And for the record, just cause you are married, doesn't make you a prize either kiddo, or in some way better than us old unmarrieds. You can be single and a complete catch or married an a complete and utter loser. Let's just get that straight.
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Perhaps I can explain a little better:
First bolded (
only explanation): Good point, there are many reasons why are people single at any age. My comment that "anyone who is single..." was overly broad. For clarity, I didn't mean it to be restricted to those over 30.
Second bolded (
what's left): reads in a derogative light true, but it's not meant to be a descriptor of people who aren't paired up. It's meant to refer to a mindset (that I have seen on many occasions - maybe just my experiences) where a single person adopts an "all the good ones are taken" attitude and tends to look down on other single people because they don't appear to meet upfront expectations.
Introspection can be in order in these types of situations: Is the person avoiding/sabotaging a good opportunity because they are beholden to the idea of a "perfect partner?" (compromise), Is the person constantly chasing people who are unattainable or really out their league (adjusting standards), Is the person refusing to acknowledge that they may have to improve themselves or their own behaviour to have a better chance at finding and being with the one they want? (work on your own flaws). To relate back to the article, throwing money at a match-maker will not solve these issues for anyone.
Third Bold (
just cause you are married, doesn't make you a prize): You didn't quote my post so I'm not sure if this was directed right at me, but to clarify, I ain't married, and I'm not a prize. I'm just a guy.
Fourth Bold (
You can be single and complete catch...) - True