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Originally Posted by Eastern Girl
I am starting to see why people feel lonely and isolated, or even suicidal, based on the perceptions of people in this thread.
Why is the only explanation for someone being unmarried past 30 that they are in some way a complete reject, either mentally or physically? Why can't it be that I don't want to marry or that I haven't met the one I would want to marry? It doesn't have to just be that you are "what's left," and therefore you should be happy to accept anything with a mild heart beat.
And for the record, just cause you are married, doesn't make you a prize either kiddo, or in some way better than us old unmarrieds. You can be single and a complete catch or married an a complete and utter loser. Let's just get that straight.
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The whole "Single women over thirty are damaged goods." thing is something that belongs in the 40's and 50's. It's absolute horse crap. And anyone who thinks that's the case is mentally stunted. I would MUCH rather be with someone who has matured mentally, and has a real world view. I dated women in their early-mid 20's right through my 30's, and it answers the question, why am I unmarried at 42.
My current GF is 35, didn't want to get shoe-horned into the wife/family thing to pursue her business career, and her competitive snowboarding and mountain biking interests. And good on her, she pursued her dreams, took care of mind and body and is a better person for it. And that is why I am marrying her.
She certainly doesn't wear frumpy dresses, and she certainly doesn't live in a basement suite with 24 cats. Plus she looks a hell of a lot better than than most 28 year olds that have pushed out 4 rug rats. Half of her friends are in the same boat, and none of them are starving for dates.
It's a maturity thing. It's an immature view to have, and I had it for years. 'Gotta date young hot women!' I have grown to respect women that say.... wait a minute, "I wanna live on my own terms first, before locking into a relationship with some emotionally stunted, sub-30 dude bro I met at a night club." Because no matter what any guy thinks, you generally will suck at life until your mid 30's, and EVERYTHING you think you believe now, will change to something else.