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chubeyr1 · 08-22-2016, 02:52 AM

Talk to your Dad, you never mentioned a mom in the picture. They should be the ones to talk to your sister. Or do they want to keep this a secret? If so why?

Should you tell her? Absolutely. Yet if you do you need to be able to deal with a teenage brain. She needs to be an adult. Never the less she needs to know. Even if she is not ready to handle this, she needs to know now!
I have no experience with ALS. I have tonnes of experience with Cancer though. My best friend as a kid, Family transfered to Calgary six months later get a phone call asking me if I would attend his funeral? 6 months earlier I had beat him in a 3k race. Slimmest of margins! Kid was in amazing shape, now dead. Hit me so hard! 16 years old and dead from cancer.

Cancer has taken both Grandparents on my Dads side of the family. Actually Dads side of the family is all dead. Brother sisters Aunts Uncles, all dead. Cancer cancer cancer! Horrible experience with disease and then it strikes home!

At 40 my Dad was diagnosed with Colon Cancer we was not expected to survive. At 50 liver cancer, at 60 prostate cancer. At 67 clean bill of health! Nothing was ever hidden from family members. Trust me I dont want to hear the news my Dad has cancer. Yet the family supports him!
My father is amazed to be alive today. Family was around at all times to support him. Dad hated going through all of this. Did not want to trouble his family. Didnt want anyone to know. Dad has had procedures done at the hospital that had me carrying him out of the hospital in my arms! He hated that! Yet at the same time loved it!

Dad could not walk, but was saying get me the F..k out of here! His son carried him out the doors of the hospital.

ALS is not Cancer. I dont want to compare diseases. Cancer is a killer and kills fast, ALS is the same but kills slower. No competition here. Just life!
If your Dad wont you need to tell her. When you tell her make it about Dad! Not her! She is gonna feel awful. Like how you feel. Yet from this moment how can you all react to this? How can you help your Dad? Your sister may lose her mind. I would. And I have!

End of the day people need to know. Loved ones need to know. Cant provide proper care to your Dad without others knowing what he needs.
Do you really want your sister terrified when your dad falls down and cant get up. She is not going to be able to lift him up. She is going to freak out. Then you are going to tell her you knew this would happen? She is going to hate you for the rest of your life.

She is going to think that if she was told about this she could of done something! You denied her the chance!
Tell your sister now!

Never the less, maybe with family support your Dad does well with treatment. Your Dad has tonnes on his mind these days, pure stress like my dad battling cancer! Dad does not want any help from family. So he says! Yet at the same time as I carry my dad out of the hospital in my arms, my Dad is embarassed about that. Yet at the same time is encouraged and giving the doctors the middle finger! My Dad does not give the middle finger ever, that was the drugs.

Yet also knows no matter how bad things get, his family is behind him.
Tell your sister now! Waiting will not help things. She is gonna be pissed off with you and devastated at the same time. Expect to be called every name under the sun with swear words. That conversation will suck! You wait six months, your sister will never speak to you again.

Put you feelings to the side. Tell her! Your Dad will benifit from this. Even if your sister is made of molasses, cries on a dime, you need to tell her!

Your dad has a battle ahead of him. Needs strong people their for him. U am guessing you think your sister is not strong. This is her father, she will definitely have a few weak moments, in the end though she may end up be stronger than you!

Tell her! Family member needs help! Give her the chance to help?

Will it work? My Dad has had cancer three times. Everytime it could of killed him. It has killed all of his family. 67 year old, and a clean bill of health. I expected my dad to die three times already.

Yet at 67 Dad lives. He should be a dead man. My Dad knows this too.

ALS in the family? TEll all family members.

08-22-2016, 02:52 AM	#11
chubeyr1 Lifetime Suspension Join Date: Nov 2006 Exp:	Talk to your Dad, you never mentioned a mom in the picture. They should be the ones to talk to your sister. Or do they want to keep this a secret? If so why? Should you tell her? Absolutely. Yet if you do you need to be able to deal with a teenage brain. She needs to be an adult. Never the less she needs to know. Even if she is not ready to handle this, she needs to know now! I have no experience with ALS. I have tonnes of experience with Cancer though. My best friend as a kid, Family transfered to Calgary six months later get a phone call asking me if I would attend his funeral? 6 months earlier I had beat him in a 3k race. Slimmest of margins! Kid was in amazing shape, now dead. Hit me so hard! 16 years old and dead from cancer. Cancer has taken both Grandparents on my Dads side of the family. Actually Dads side of the family is all dead. Brother sisters Aunts Uncles, all dead. Cancer cancer cancer! Horrible experience with disease and then it strikes home! At 40 my Dad was diagnosed with Colon Cancer we was not expected to survive. At 50 liver cancer, at 60 prostate cancer. At 67 clean bill of health! Nothing was ever hidden from family members. Trust me I dont want to hear the news my Dad has cancer. Yet the family supports him! My father is amazed to be alive today. Family was around at all times to support him. Dad hated going through all of this. Did not want to trouble his family. Didnt want anyone to know. Dad has had procedures done at the hospital that had me carrying him out of the hospital in my arms! He hated that! Yet at the same time loved it! Dad could not walk, but was saying get me the F..k out of here! His son carried him out the doors of the hospital. ALS is not Cancer. I dont want to compare diseases. Cancer is a killer and kills fast, ALS is the same but kills slower. No competition here. Just life! If your Dad wont you need to tell her. When you tell her make it about Dad! Not her! She is gonna feel awful. Like how you feel. Yet from this moment how can you all react to this? How can you help your Dad? Your sister may lose her mind. I would. And I have! End of the day people need to know. Loved ones need to know. Cant provide proper care to your Dad without others knowing what he needs. Do you really want your sister terrified when your dad falls down and cant get up. She is not going to be able to lift him up. She is going to freak out. Then you are going to tell her you knew this would happen? She is going to hate you for the rest of your life. She is going to think that if she was told about this she could of done something! You denied her the chance! Tell your sister now! Never the less, maybe with family support your Dad does well with treatment. Your Dad has tonnes on his mind these days, pure stress like my dad battling cancer! Dad does not want any help from family. So he says! Yet at the same time as I carry my dad out of the hospital in my arms, my Dad is embarassed about that. Yet at the same time is encouraged and giving the doctors the middle finger! My Dad does not give the middle finger ever, that was the drugs. Yet also knows no matter how bad things get, his family is behind him. Tell your sister now! Waiting will not help things. She is gonna be pissed off with you and devastated at the same time. Expect to be called every name under the sun with swear words. That conversation will suck! You wait six months, your sister will never speak to you again. Put you feelings to the side. Tell her! Your Dad will benifit from this. Even if your sister is made of molasses, cries on a dime, you need to tell her! Your dad has a battle ahead of him. Needs strong people their for him. U am guessing you think your sister is not strong. This is her father, she will definitely have a few weak moments, in the end though she may end up be stronger than you! Tell her! Family member needs help! Give her the chance to help? Will it work? My Dad has had cancer three times. Everytime it could of killed him. It has killed all of his family. 67 year old, and a clean bill of health. I expected my dad to die three times already. Yet at 67 Dad lives. He should be a dead man. My Dad knows this too. ALS in the family? TEll all family members.