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Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz
"Crazy Person (use his real name), it's obvious that we have problems interacting on a personal level, however this is a professional environment, and it would be in both of our best interests to treat it as such. I'm more than happy to discuss work related maters with you, and from now on I would prefer if we limited our interaction to professional matters only."
Email that to him, CC HR and document any times that he is aggressive, note what was said, when, where, and who else was present.
If you do all that you'll have a pretty rock solid case to protect yourself should it come to some sort of confrontation.
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Originally Posted by AcGold
Thank you all for the levity I had a good laugh. Thank you Shantz this is exactly what I will do, I do not want to quit it's so good (first real career software job yay!)
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Be very careful how you word any such email. It would be best to word it in a manner that only projects your feelings on the matter, for example "l am very uncomfortable with some of the ways you interact with me, I'm sending you this letter to politely make you aware of my discomfort with our interactions. (Give examples, but do not accuse him of anything) I'm aware it's possible that you may not realize how some of your actions towards me are impacting me, so now that you are aware I respectfully ask that you please stop these behaviours when interacting with me."
If you start accusing him of things and have no proof, or witness who is willing to give you a signed statement, you run the risk of him running to hr and saying you're harassing him and making unfounded accusations, which is a common tactic for abusers to use in these situations. Do not act bothered by his actions, act indifferent, it will be extremely infuriating for a textbook workplace bully and he will either move on to a new victim or he will snap and give hr a blatant reason to deal with him.
Also make sure to not say or imply things like "stay away from me" as that can also be twisted.