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Originally Posted by calgaryblood

It's silly to think that you have to have kids in order to know what it's like to be a good parent and how much work it actually is. There are so many terrible parents out there who don't do what's best for their kids and I'm supposed to believe they'd be better parents than me because I haven't had a child yet? I know for a fact I'd be a better parent than the dad who doesn't know how to control his kids and beats them to try and "teach them". Or a better dad than the workaholic who works 12 hours a day and sees his kid 2 hours a day and his kids see their nanny more than their father. You don't have to be a parent to understand how hard parenting is.

You don't just become some sort of super human when your sperm impregnates a woman.

Nothing prepares you for having a kid. Isolated incidents of realizing you wouldn't beat your kid aren't relevant experience or knowledge. When my son was pretty young, maybe a month or two old, my wife and I half jokingly suggested we should throw him out the window, get a good night sleep and deal with the police in the morning. Nobody is suggesting parents are superhumans. In fact, I've discovered far more weaknesses in myself after I had a child than I knew before. And I don't think parents feel superior to non-parents; we just want you all to kindly shut up with your opinions and judgements and criticisms of individual events you may witness or hear about.