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Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger
Hello CP. I don't have any immediate concerns but as I've now reached the age that my friends are getting married and even I may someday tie the knot, I'd like to get some advice on wedding etiquette. I've had some friends ask me and I have no idea what the standard is nowadays, or ever for that matter.
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I might be old school but I'll give it a shot
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Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger
1) Gifts. I only give cash but the question is how much? G/f and I are attending the wedding of a friend of hers. They are reasonably close but not so close that she's a bridesmaid. I figure we should each give $100 each. Enough to cover our meals plus a little extra.
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For weddings, that I'm just an invitee, I usually do the envelope of cash. I'm too lazy to find out where a couple of registered and go do the whole got it got it need it crap. If its a close friend or family member, or girl that I had drunken sex with, then I'll put some effort into the gift buying.
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Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger
2) Who pays for what? No one seems to know who is on the hook for things. Do the groomsmen pay for their own suits? What about bridesmaids and their dresses? Tux rentals? Buy suits for keeps? Pay a portion?
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I've always had to pay for my own suit unless its something unique that the groom wants. If they're doing a Star Trek Themed wedding and we have to dress up like fricken Klingons grooms paying for that. With the Brides maids, usually because its some kind of matching dress scenario, its usually paid for by the Bride, cause girl ain't gonna wear no ugly bridesmaid dress again yo.
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Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger
3) Who does what? One of my lady friends says that bridesmaids are supposed to do a bunch of work for the wedding. Is that normal? Does the bride normally use the bridesmaids as her personal assistants for 6 months before the wedding? I was a groomsman and I had very few responsibilities. Maybe it is a man/woman thing.
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Usually the brides and bridesmaids do the organizing and pass the list around. But the men folk are usually given the logistical tasks like picking up this or buying that. Because we're hopeless and don't understand what a dream wedding is all about.
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Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger
4) More gifts. Is it normal for the bride/groom to buy gifts for the bridesmaids/groomsmen?
Any other general suggestions?
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Yes, At every wedding that I've been at a member of the wedding party, I've been given something. Its ranged from a wallet, or a picture frame, right up to getting a really nice watch when I was the MC at the reception.