Nothing of substance to add, just that I had a weird feeling when he first posted this thank you. I know a lot of people like attention or like to winge, but I was starting to get the feeling all this talk about his personal life had a dark side to it. He was just always doing it. Didn't know what it was, but kinda felt like he was ALWAYS in trouble or need. Something was off. And often, as has been more accurately noted in this thread, he'd post a lowest of the low post, then be super excited or happy or friendly about something a week later. It was weird.
To be honest, I thought he might be bi-polar or have other emotional/mental issues. And such, I just kinda stayed away from the whole situation, and a lot of his posts in general. Didn't want to make it worse, but was suspicious about how much responsibility he might have for his own problems. I never had a problem with him as a person/poster. He did have some pretty conservative, borderline hateful posts every once in a while but I chalked that up to a different area and point of view than most of us and the possibility that the darker posts may have have come at a time of mental fragility, or inebriation, as he always seemed to balance them out pretty quickly. I had interacted with him a few times online and he was in the CHPL a little while at the same time I was and I never really had a problem with him, all interactions were friendly, even fun.
Lastly the whole, 'my ex did this' etc. I never bought into. And since that was central in the explanations for his problems, I took the whole thing with a huge grain of salt. For one, when it comes to relationships, there's always two sides. I try not to get to involved with people I do know well, never mind people I don't. Secondly, when it comes to internet winging I have absolutely zero faith of what people say about their exs. Far too easy to play the blame game, and far too many people eager to dump on their ex (or worse) on the internet. And sadly, it men seem to have a worse reputation for this online than the ladies.
Anyway, this is all to say, for a lot of this, I was like many of the posters here. Didn't want to say anything negative, cause didn't want to be labeled as 'that guy', but was far to unsure to give money, and stopped giving well wishes a while ago.
It has turned into a very interesting thread. I only realized what happened today, when I last saw this thread, it was still on the second page.
For RTA I'll just echo what everyone else has said here. Don't feel obligated to say anything. I appreciate the appearance, but keep yourself safe and only disclose what your comfortable with. And lastly, don't let this creep or situation mess up your life any further. Look for help if you need it, and lay it to rest if that suits you better. It's your life, your call. All the best to you, I'm sure all of us here wish you better times as soon as possible.
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