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Originally Posted by afc wimbledon
Guys, living in the southern States and being poor is a vast sucking trap that's designed to stop people climbing out in a way that up here or in Europe we can't understand.
Give PIMking a break.
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I was trying to see if it was choices he was making, and if he needed help making better choices. I understood he had some issues in the past, and thanks to some very generous CP members, he received a large influx of cash. If he's gone through that due to medical bills, that's one thing. If it's due to poor/unreasonable choices, then maybe it's time to assess those.
When I was a poor student I had to make choices. I didn't go out to dinner. I went to multiple supermarkets, looked through flyers for deals, and used coupons to buy groceries as cheap as possible. I went to the gym at my school, bought clothes only when on sale, wore those clothes longer than I'd like, and bought furniture second hand. I studied a ton, and worked 30-40 hours per week. I never went to one hockey game in person, and I didn't own a jersey. A lot of this time sucked, but it was what I needed to do in order to graduate without debt, save a little, and set myself up for the future. If PIMKing is able to make some of these changes and sacrifices, he'll be able to set himself up for success as well. He needs to see if it's worth it or not. This has nothing to do with being in Canada, the UK, or the south. It's all about choices.
Instead of getting a truckload of IKEA furniture, get some used stuff off of craigslist for cheap, or even free. Instead of buying the latest shirt, shorts and shoes to workout in, use the ones you have. Instead of quenching your thirst with Gatorade, drink water. Instead of having a gym pass, go outside and workout, or use stuff around your house. Instead of having the latest iPhone, get a previous model that's free. None of these things are fun, or desirable, but if you continue to spend money freely, without having the income to support it, you'll continue to have money problems forever. Once again, that's not a Canada/Southern USA thing. That's just making sound financial decisions.
I'd love to drive a Bentley, have all my dress clothes be bespoke articles from Europe, and stay at the Ritz Carlton's penthouse suite everywhere I go. Unfortunately for me, I cannot afford that. I make a lot more than I did in university, and I spend more as well. I still don't spend more than I make, and I make choices. Not every choice is to my liking, but sometimes I'd rather have something later, than have something now. Maybe he needs some tough lough like OilKiller got. Maybe he needs a gentle push in the right direction. Maybe his choice is to stay with the status quo. I just saw that even after getting the generous contributions, that many posts continue to discuss money issues. I genuinely want him to not have these problems, and am trying to offer solutions that worked for me, and/or might work for him. If I'm way off base here, I'll stop.