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Originally Posted by PepsiFree
How you feel is probably at odds with their intentions. You feel pushed and annoyed, they're likely just happy and wanting to spread it.
I don't put up a tree or decorations, buy gifts (and ask others not to buy for me), sing songs or listen to the music, watch movies, check out lights, etc. I've never felt pushed though and likewise never been called a grinch. I usually just express that I'm stoked others are enjoying themselves and thank them for trying to include me when they do!
You get back what you give out usually.
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I agree that it is not their intention at all. Things like this may just get focused on more in expat communities where people feel a desire to pull together in their otherness. I'll go out for the group dinner, do a secret Santa gift exchange, I bought a gingerbread house for people in the office to eat, but I don't go around wishing everyone "Merry Christmas" or being excited about it and sharing stories or making lots of extra plans.
It's nice for people that they are enjoying the season. I like that. It bothers me more that it is presumed I should share the same values and interests. At the same time lots of expats refuse to celebrate the Chinese holidays.
I imagine it is not a situation relevant to most on CP. Just a personal experience.