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I've been occasionally convinced I was wrong, but I can only think of once (and it was Mr. Coffee, if I recall correctly) when someone actually conceded the argument.
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If someone is rarely convinced they're wrong about something important, I think that person is talking to and listening to the wrong people. Confirmation bias is a waste of time; it's boring. If the conversation isn't framed the way you say you like frame it, i.e. in debate terms, then it's really not a matter of winning or conceding.
Take the thread about the private member's bill regarding lease-breaking for abused spouses. It was, inevitably, raised that there was potential for someone to lie and abuse the law to get out of their lease. Instead of taking sides - which typically shake out as, "a bunch of these people are just liars" vs. "false reporting isn't an issue at all and you're a monster for not supporting victims", which goes nowhere, it was immediately acknowledged that there was a potential problem, and then people went on to talk about how big of a problem it was, whether it was a problem we could live with, and how it might be mitigated. More good came of it than people lobbing salvos of text at each other.
It's not surprising that no one wins debates on the internet, because no one is usually absorbing any information - in an internet debate, the only reason to read the other "side's" posts is to look for weaknesses to exploit in your response and develop a rebuttal.
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we all have the human failing that we will rationalize our opinions to extreme lengths rather than ever admit we are in error.
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This is certainly a bias, but biases can be overcome when we're aware of them. You just recognized this, presumably you can self-examine a bit and account for it. I'm subject to the same bias, of course, but I try (sometimes fail, but try) to look at it as something standing in the way of me fully understanding an issue and being right in my perspective about it. At the end of the day, do you want to be right, or just be able to convince yourself that you are?