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Originally Posted by Locke
Ugh. I dont even know what to say other than:
People are more important than stuff. Dont allow your worth to be evaluated by what you own.
Losing stuff sucks but life is defined by losing stuff.
If anyone believes that you are worth less due to being financially 'worth less' then thats an indictment of them and not you.
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Unfortunately some of "them" tend to be for example spouses and friends, and that sucks no matter what.
And just generally; financial hardship makes everything more difficult. For example if you have a troubled marriage, unemployment is easily something that drives a whole bunch of nails on the coffin, or just makes it impossible to fix things. You can't afford marriage counceling, you can't afford to take a nice vacation together, you might not even afford to get a babysitter to go out together for one night. Buying gifts loses a lot of it's charm if it means you have to cut down on your grocery bill next month.
If you have important friends you have trouble keeping up with, having no money often makes it even harder to keep in touch as you have no money to go out, at least not to do the same things they are doing and things you used to do together. (Concerts, restaurants etc.)
And you just have less of similar things to talk about. The friend you who doesn't know what it's like to be unemployed can have a hard time sympathizing with your problems, and you can't really connect with their complaints about work if all you're thinking about is how much you'd love to have a job to complain about.
This is stuff I have a lot of personal experience with, since I'm financially clearly lower-class, while my social circles tend to be much more middle-class, with a lot of upper middle-class people thrown in. I've learned to live with it because that's been my situation almost all of my life, and my friends have grown up with it from the other side.
It's a lot harder when it's new for everybody.