[CalgaryFan1988]

Originally Posted by To Be Quite Honest

Also, if he truly is a terrible person, think about the difficulty that he could create and how hard it would be for the children. If he is possessive, vindictive and small, he may be even worse to the both of you because you "stabbed him in the back" and made it "personal" in his mind. I'm not saying it's right, but the fight it would create would be extra-daunting. Court dates, lawyer visits, crying, sobbing, child drop-off arguments, affidavits, lies, and all around misery. Then if it becomes too much for the two of you and you break up, she is left with it all by herself.

How old are the kids?

Kids are 9 and 7.

I think it's more of a headache than anything. I don't want to cause problems for her and the kids either.