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Originally Posted by CalgaryFan1988
Where did I say the other guy is a horrible person? I said he wasn't a very good husband, doesn't mean he's a bad person. He's "distant" because he has a girlfriend in a different province so spends most of his time away. He sees the kids maybe one day a month.
I have no idea what she's like as an ex-wife. I don't even know what she's like as a girlfriend. I just know that I'm attracted to her, which doesn't happen for me very often.
I'm just taking things slow and see where the chips fall. Patience is a virtue or something like that.
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1. They have a couple kids, he is not really in the picture, hardly ever around.
2. He was not a good husband, cheated a lot and stuff and he ended it.
3. I personally wouldn't care if the situation was reversed. (How gracious of you.)
4. He took her for granted..... His loss
5. I am a good guy, that's why I feel scummy. But something about her feels so right. (Apparently...)
6. I know it's not ideal, I didn't go out and look for it. (Yes you are. You're here looking for it)
7. Especially when he bad mouthed her for the last 8 or 9.
8. The ex in question is very possessive, so I'm leaning towards him not being cool with it.
You and the woman are angels. He is a demon. (Paraphrasing)
The words you choose to tell your story leave specific ideas in everyone's mind. It's like your trying to get permission and justifying your actions through manipulation.
Other words you can use:
He's trying to rebuild his life after the loss of a marriage and he found someone that makes him happy in another province. It's a difficult situation for everyone.
They found the marriage less than fulfilling so they got divorced.
Your phrasing is telling. In the end, do what you want. Of those that took this road I know one good relationship and the rest we horrid experiments.