I have been on both sides of this equation, both times I wish I hadn't been after all the dust settled.
One permanently ruined a 10 year friendship that I wish I could mend, as he was 10X the person she was. And I was thinking with my wang. It was his ex, and I was the intruder.
The other was my ex, we were together 3 years, and it went down like 2 weeks after we split, and I found out he was running game on her before we broke up. It took 10 years before me and my friend could even be in the same room without wanting to kill each other, but we eventually patched it up. We had been friends since kindergarten, and this all went down in our mid-twenties. He regrets immensely doing what he did. I regret immensely the anger and things I said to him. But eventually we ran into each other in Home Depot of all places, caught up, and managed to bury the hatchet.
The one constant I typically see in these scenarios, is the relationship usually fizzles out, and you wish you had never chased after a piece of tainted tail. It's all great for a few weeks or month, when it has all the new sex, and new partner discovery, but once that part runs it's course, you just end up questioning how you could stab a friend in the back.
I know it is cliche, but I have 4 friends in my life, that are like brothers to me, and no matter what, we will be there for each other for life. No matter what. These are guys you would drop anything at 3 am to bail them out of jail, or pull them out of a ditch... whatever. Of all the women I have had in my life, there is only one, I would even pick up my phone for at that time of night, and it would likely be because I was assuming she wanted a piece of pylon.
You buddies will be there for you forever, even if you go a year or two without speaking. Women will not be.
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