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Originally Posted by YYC in LAX
Are you a real person? Having a local wedding where the hosts pay for the food and open bar is a dick move?
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Well, think about this: If you're having a 'local' wedding, the expectation that everyone who is invited will almost certainly show up. resulting in significant travel for at least some of the people, but no cool destination, just the Willow Park Golf Club... woah, shut the front door! Willow Park!?
Secondly, you end up with the issue of children: are they coming or not? If not, you're forcing parents to deal with babysitters, particularly onerous for anyone who's making, let's say a three-hour drive down from Edmonton.
If you
are letting them bring kids, you're ending up with people leaving early because little Timmy is tired, and you've got people who could otherwise be enjoying themselves with their friends and family chasing kids around a golf course.
Then you've got the social problems that result from extended social networks and families, vastly more likely that people's ex's or disliked cousins will be there, and raging conservative-theory uncles are going to be talking someone's ear off the whole time.
Most likely it's happening on a long weekend, so that's the 'we don't get enough time off' argument against destination weddings right there: everyone's losing their long weekend to the Dinner/Wedding/Reception/Gift Opening extravaganza.
Then you've got the expectations of gifts, the likely bachelor/bachelorette parties, the potential stag and doe, the shower, a great many of which are done-away with when it comes to the destination wedding: your presence is the gift; the wedding itself is the bachelor/bachelorett party; no one should have a stag and doe for a destination wedding: that's crass.
Yes, a destination wedding is expensive, but it doesn't place any other expectations on people the way a local wedding does.
Local wedding: dick move