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Originally Posted by Hesla
Destination weddings are fine if...
1) You do not get butthurt if we can not make it.
2) You do not get butthurt that we booked separately from your travel agent because we found a much cheaper rate / wanted to stay longer / stay at a different resort for part of the time. I know you get a cheaper travel rate if more book with the travel agent, but then we have to pay much more.
We have a had two in recent years that I was part of the wedding party. Ended up on the same flight down, staying 3 days longer (at a much nicer hotel for the 7 days after the wedding was over) for less money for the first one. The couple got pissed because we did not use their travel agent. We gave her a chance to find us a package for 3 extra days, but she took 2 weeks to do so. By that time we had booked online and were paying less than those that booked with her.
The second was at St. Eugene's Mission in Cranbrook and was fantastic.
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This is bang on. There is no room for butthurt-ness from either side. Bride/Groom should expect some to decline and should never use it as an excuse for a free trip for themselves. Guests (especially extended family and work associates) shouldn't feel butthurt for feeling like they were excluded. Go, don't go, it is up to you.
My wife an I had a destination at Emerald Lake, so just a drive, but still an expense for our guests. Great place to stay, host bar and wonderful meal, but we understood not all could attend.