[Poe969]

I do agree with what you're saying but that isn't always the case. Sure there are some victims who can't talk about it even with a therapist but then there are some that lead support groups and speak to crowds about their experience. Personally, I think it would hurt more to try and hide it from people than step forward and explain what happened and tell people that you won't be a victim anymore. If she comes out now and people know who she is, she can deal with things...it'll likely be a complete ####storm like you said but she can deal with it and face it head on. If she decides to not go public and take the money, that's her prerogative. She'll likely be able to life a somewhat normal life for the time being, but like the whole Ashley Madison bs going on, your dirty little secrets are going to be made public sooner or later. Someone will find out who she is and make a big deal out of it, and it won't happen on her terms. Maybe she'll be in a great relationship and have an amazing job and then crap hits the fan and people find out and it ruins things. I'm the kind of person that would rather deal with things on my terms and face them head on. I do understand that that's just me and I respect her right to do whatever she decides but personally, I wouldn't agree with not seeing this through right now.