Here's a real distinction - linguistics if you will - that's really come out in this thread.
Calling someone a homophobe is in fact different than saying they are acting like one, saying something homophobic. Substitute almost any other adjective (
silly, racist, intelligent even), as really, doesn't have to be this one.
So, if you get called out for saying or doing something homophobic, no one is calling you a homophobe, but they are saying that particular action came across as homophobic.
Getting back on topic, Jon Cornish takes on some Facebook commenters
https://www.facebook.com/CalgaryStam...259191/?type=1