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I worked at Ashley Madison from 2008-2013. AMA - Reddit

I worked as a department manager for AshleyMadison.com from 2008-2013. I am happy to provide proof however I'd rather not specifically state what department I was in! I have lots of insane stories. AMA.

Edit: Verified by the mods.

In all honesty, it was one of the best companies I've ever worked for. They treated their employees very well - full benefits, salary pay for ALL positions (no matter how menial) and protection. Because of the nature of the business we received death threats daily and they took every single one seriously.

The morality of the company was something I personally struggled with, mainly because it's an x-rated site and seeing penises and vaginas 500 times a day became a little unnerving after a few years.

The sad truth is, there are a lot of lonely people in the world and we spent a lot of time just listening to our customers' woes. It was easier for me personally to justify my employment there because I genuinely felt like we were in some weird way helping these people. Most of them just really wanted someone to talk to.

It's true. Ahh, this is fun, so many memories are coming back to me. Here's the thing. Men on dating sites tend to be completely unrealistic. Most men expect the women to do all the work. It's like they think "hey I'm just going to put up a picture of my dick and my jacked up arms, write "sup ladies' in every section of my profile and just wait for the hotties to roll in." It doesn't work like that in real life and it doesn't work online either. 65 year old men would call and complain that none of the 19 year old models they wrote to replied. It's never fun having to crush a man's soul by saying "maybe try messaging a 40 year old one time and just see what happens..." They just refuse to accept that the 19 year old model might not want them.

I felt really bad for women over 40 on the site. They were invisible. But they were always the most wild and adventurous.

If men are honest, open, willing to talk to women before asking them to ####, post ANYTHING other than dick pics (no, putting your dick besides rulers, beer cans, pop bottles or any other inanimate object you feel the need to compare your dick size to is NOT a turn on for any woman anywhere) is a pretty easy way to get the most out of any dating site. You have to put some work into it, just like real life.

I wish people understood that a dating site can't fix crazy.

But seriously guys, stop sending pics of your dick to random women on the internet. I've seen it happen a million times and not once has it worked or resulted in any interest from a woman. Just stop.

Women, by far. They went crazy. It's hard to choose just one memorable story because (no exaggeration) we'd get at least one legitimately crazy wife harassing us every single day. I was called every name in the book. I had people threaten to blow up our office, kill my family, etc. It was terrifying.

Mainly the wives were pissed because we refused to confirm what they already knew. They'd have proof and beg us to just say "yes, he's on our site and yes he paid for a membership." But we never compromised our members' privacy.

It sadly ruined my impression of a lot of women, even being a woman myself. 99.9% of their madness could be solved by sitting down and talking to their spouses. Some women sent in pictures of their kids to try and make us feel bad. One woman had her young child (he sounded about 4 years old) call us to tell us we'd ruined his family.

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