[Coach]

Originally Posted by Fire of the Phoenix

Why would you be on that site if you weren't looking to cheat or to help someone else cheat? Honest question.

Being the other man/woman is just as bad IMO. In the scenario without AM, the odds that someone legitimately doesn't know the person they are banging is married is an idea I might entertain for a few dates but beyond that, the person is either stupid or in denial. Wouldn't you wonder why your partner refuses to bring you out in public and wants to have all your dates in hotel rooms? That argument goes completely out the window if they met on AM, because it's basically a degenerates seeking degenerates free for all and you know what you're looking for if you sign up there.

This is an important distinction. It's not up to you to decide what is moral or immoral for someone else, within the confines of the law. And even then, it's not up to, it's up to courts and judges.

The open marriage angle is not what I'm talking about. If both partners are in agreement and consent to it, it's not cheating. My wife and I could never do that, but I don't care if others do.

Right, what I'm saying is that there are likely people there who fall into this category. Do they deserve to have their identities and finances exposed? The point is no one knows the relationship status of any of these people. There could be just as many people on eHarmony looking to do the exact same thing. If they have a problem with the site being marketed as a cheating site, their gripe should be with AM, not the people.

My goal isn't social justice. I don't have a goal, I just don't mind when bad things happen to bad people. Cheating will never be eliminated obviously, I just don't feel sorry for scumbags that get caught/exposed and have their lives turned upside down as a result.

This is fair, but again, it's not up to you or anyone else to punish them or find them guilty of anything. There's obviously deep rooted problems in any relationship where a partner ends up cheating, it's not black and white. I'm not referring to your goal (sorry that was a typo), I'm referring to the hackers' goal.

Cheating and driving in the left lane aren't comparable things. The left lane is the passing lane, correct? If you were driving in it, I suppose I would favor you getting a ticket but I probably wouldn't think much of it at all to be honest. I'm not much a speeder though, so I rarely pass people and likely wouldn't care if you were doing that. If I was stuck behind someone going 20k below the limit and you were in the passing lane doing the same speed driving side by side with granny, well then I might have a problem.

I'm just using it as an example of someone passing judgement or justice on someone else. If I'm going even let's say 125 on the highway in the left lane and some idiot comes ripping up behind me at 150 to ride my tail and I decide I'm going to social justice this guy into staying at a IMO reasonable speed, I imagine that person would be pretty pissed off. And I'm not even releasing their private information, indiscretions and mistakes to the world.

What the hackers have done is illegal (rightfully so) and are using that illegal act to make a statement on morality. It's not up to them to decide what's right and wrong. It's not up to us. And, in the case of cheating, it's not even up to the law. It's between them and their partner and no one else.