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Originally Posted by FlamesAddiction
Having experienced both, the sudden loss of a parent was definitively more intense and a different type of mourning for me. It was like an out of body experience. With a slow death from disease, there was some relief for me as the suffering ended. They both suck but in different ways. But it is different for everybody I think and also depends somewhat how familiar you are with death. I heard that for some people, saying "good byes" is harder than losing someone suddenly. I would be hesitant to paint a broad brush on how people will react in different situations.
One thing I found after losing a parent, is that they closer I get to the age that they died, there starts to become more anxiety and the wounds start to open again. You start to relate to them is a different way.
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I am not trying to paint anything. Every death is different and every person deals with it in their own way. I am also not suggesting that one is less painful than another. I am just saying that's how I feel in regards to my own father's death and if I had the opportunity I'd try and make the most of the time left. There are a lot of things I'd have loved to ask him and lots of conversations I wish I had.