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Originally Posted by cDnStealth
I am sorry for you situation. I lost my dad in a car accident when I was 16 years old. This may sound horrible but I envy your position because you can make the most of the time he has left. I was really close with my dad but there is a lot I missed out on, simply due to my age, and I never got the chance to say goodbye. Spend as much time as you can with your dad.
I can tell you from my own experience that there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about my father. It'll hurt for a while but eventually when you think of your dad you'll focus on all the positive memories and times you shared.
Feel free to PM me if you just want to talk.
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Having experienced both, the sudden loss of a parent was definitively more intense and a different type of mourning for me. It was like an out of body experience. With a slow death from disease, there was some relief for me as the suffering ended. They both suck but in different ways. But it is different for everybody I think and also depends somewhat how familiar you are with death. I heard that for some people, saying "good byes" is harder than losing someone suddenly. I would be hesitant to paint a broad brush on how people will react in different situations.
One thing I found after losing a parent, is that they closer I get to the age that they died, there starts to become more anxiety and the wounds start to open again. You start to relate to them is a different way.