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Originally Posted by FireFly
Oh absolutely! Some people shouldn't have gotten married in the first place; I know a few couples that are ticking time bombs for that reason. People who get married because she got pregnant and it was the right thing to do.... isn't always the case! People who settle because they'd rather be unhappy than alone....
However the lady in the one article was married for 18 years before decided she wanted to spice up her life. I assume, even though you know what they say about that, that she knew going into the marriage that he didn't want kids and all of a sudden she's decided that she need to gain control of some feminine part of herself she's been missing out on because she didn't have kids? Sounds like a load of BS and an awful excuse to bang a few randoms.
Anyway, I'm quite pleased with myself that I banged my randoms in my youth and found someone I love to settle down with before getting married. I know that we both love and respect each other and that if either one of us was feeling unsatisfied, we would talk about it and make a plan of action instead of splitting up to 'rediscover ourselves'...
Some people aren't cut out for monogamy and that's fine but if that's the case, why are you married at all?
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Also there is a difference between getting divorce because you are in a broken relationship whereby the emotional/friendship part of your marriage is over. But to me not being monogamous boils down to wanting to bang different people, not emotional intimacy. Let's call a spade a spade. It's wanting to stick your penis/vagina in a new hole...and that's lazy.
Edit: I also want to point out that if both parties get into the relationship knowing, or decide later to not be monogamous, that's totally different, I'm referring mostly to people cheating on spouses and using the "see I was sexually bored" excuse.