Heard him on the radio this morning. I see what he's trying to say, and if you've talked about it with your partner and it works for you, that's great for you. I don't know that I agree though.
One of his comments was that what you look for in a relationship (safe, comfortable, etc) is the opposite of what you're aroused by (risk, something new, etc) so most couples set themselves up for failure. He figured if you each only cheat on the other 2-3 times over the course of your marriage you're doing pretty well.
Maybe I'm old fashioned but that doesn't really sit well with me. I see marriage as a lifetime commitment (for better or worse) and sleeping with whomever gets you excited and saying you "only did it 2-3 times....and hey, you did it too!" doesn't seem like much of a commitment or very respectful of the person you love.
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