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Originally Posted by OMG!WTF!
Well yeah, a great marriage is fantastic in all regards. Everybody wins. But short of that, I can tell you one thing for sure, the last person who would ever know I was sad, lonely, unhappy because I was single would be my daughter. And the second last person to know would be my son. That's pretty much the exact opposite example I'd want to give any kid. I'd really rather my kid not set the default switch to "gotta be in a relationship to define my self worth and be happy". There's just over a million ways to be happy without a boy/girlfriend.
So this whole whimpy business about "I need to be happy and satisfied to be a good parent" is complete nonsense. If you can't have a strong self without someone else attached to you, you've completely misunderstood the word "self".
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We're going to have to agree to
really disagree on that one. Kids aren't morons... you can't just put a beanie on, spin the propellor and tell them you're happy if you actually aren't. That doesn't even factor in how unhealthy it can be for some people to cram their problems in a small, tumour-sized ball and ignore them.
I don't think the OP is a lost baby dear, unable to cope in the world without a mate. He's just lonely. That's not a sign of weakness nor is it particularly uncommon with divorced people. I think it's awesome if you can be happy and completely contented without a partner, but painting all people like that is tantamount to telling a depressed person to just go for a walk because that works for you.