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Originally Posted by OMG!WTF!
Well yeah, a great marriage is fantastic in all regards. Everybody wins. But short of that, I can tell you one thing for sure, the last person who would ever know I was sad, lonely, unhappy because I was single would be my daughter. And the second last person to know would be my son. That's pretty much the exact opposite example I'd want to give any kid. I'd really rather my kid not set the default switch to "gotta be in a relationship to define my self worth and be happy". There's just over a million ways to be happy without a boy/girlfriend.
So this whole whimpy business about "I need to be happy and satisfied to be a good parent" is complete nonsense. If you can't have a strong self without someone else attached to you, you've completely misunderstood the word "self".
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I never said anything about having to be attached to have a strong self. I said that if you're in a relationship, having a strong one is best for your children. I guess you've misunderstood me.
I'm not saying children aren't important or that you should ignore them, I'm saying that sometimes adults need adult companionship to keep their sanity and keep them grounded in who they are. It doesn't have to be a romantic relationship; it could just be friends.
Also, I believe you underestimate how observant kids are.