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Originally Posted by OMG!WTF!
My one and only point is true....you only get one chance to prove to your kids that they are number 1. Not having a relationship for a few years while your kid grows up is not a big deal. You had a relationship when you made the kid. You will have decades to have a relationship when the kid is grown up. If you're confident they feel that they are number 1, then you probably have time to date.
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I want to try and understand what you are saying.
Are you saying that if the OP's kids are say 5 & 7 that he should forego all chances of a relationship for the next ten years? And to do otherwise he would be selfish and a less than perfect parent?
He's already stated that his kids are #1. Why would he NOT then be confident that they feel that they are #1? Why ask that question?
Are you totally closed to the concept that OP can have a relationship whilst still making his kids #1 priority? That there is the possibility of over time integrating the two parties?