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Originally Posted by CrazyCaper
As some of you may know, I've been a single dad for 4 years now and have tried the dating scene off and on during that duration. I've dated divorced women with kids, divorced with no kids, single with kids and single without kids.
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Timing is the difficulty in this situation. Each person comes into the relationship on different levels usually - ex. time separated, age of children, or no children. Being on the same level is a benefit.
Some people who have not had children assume the new partner won't have enough time for them. You have to work hard to show that person that there is plenty of room for them in your life.
It is interesting to discover how many women age 30-40+ have not had children. You might assume another single parent will understand your challenges better, but this is not always the case.
The stereo-type is that children will always despise the step-parent. This can be avoided if you are sensitive to the needs of the children, and take your time introducing the new spouse. An amicable supportive relationship with the ex will be important too.
At some point there are legal matters to consider - a pre-nup or cohab agreement, and will and estate planning.