I just graduated from university last year, moved to a new city for full time work and broke up with my girlfriend of four years. I was stuck studying for professional exams and working full time in a city away from family and friends. The worst thing was coming home after work and having nothing to do. Looking at facebook and internet dating was awful because there's so much out there and I didn't ever feel like I was a part of it.
Tried going to various events on meetup.com for a several months and found some people that I meshed well with and others where I felt awkward and lonely. After going to events regularly, I found a group of friends now where we play boardgames and try new types of foods together. I've never had a group of friends like this where we can have good laughs and good company. I also started taking some classes for interest now so it also keeps me occupied and gives me more chances to meet new people.
More than anything though I had to work out my problems mentally in my head before I started to feel happiness again. The turning points were when I spent time on the internet reading articles about psychology, loneliness and meeting friends.
Set goals and try to find things that you love to do. Don't get too down on yourself if you find yourself in a situation where you feel awkward and lonely. Move on and look for people that suit you. When you find people you enjoy being with, make an effort to spend time together.
Best of luck to every lonely person out there. Hope you guys find some happiness in your lives.
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