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Originally Posted by Cube Inmate
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I'm bad at describing specific situations here, but there's a difference between politely suggesting something vs. the "stern talking-to" that some people are talking about. Like making a huge deal about saying "please" for Smarties, when (for all you know) we're already working through the difficulties of that on our own and just haven't quite mastered it.
Your choice to withhold smarties (don't know who I'm talking to), but if you think it's your job to teach a lesson in manners, then you're just wasting your time.
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Ok fair enough to the first part, but to bolded part I again have to ask why this would be a problem for you. Shouldn't we all be saying please and thank you? If you're out of the room and your kid demands Smarties from someone else, they can't ask them to be polite and say please first because it's your kid? Even if you're standing right over top of the interaction and your kid is rude and the person waits for a reaction from you, gets nothing (not saying you personally) and they politely refuse to give the kid a Smartie because they didn't say please. Like you say, it's their choice no to give the Smartie, so is it better to just say no or to also reinforce why they don't get a Smartie?
The whole "takes a village to raise a child" thing. Why is it bad if their reinforcing what you would say anyways had you been there? I just don't see how this is a bad thing.