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Originally Posted by Russic
The other thing to consider is discipline style. All parents will admit to pumping the anger up to 11 far too early sometimes. It's a dangerous game to play, because once you hit a peak, there's very little distance left to go. It's like when parents threaten to take their kid straight home when they're 10 feet into IKEA. You know they're screwed because they played their ace too early. My point is (at least for me) discipline can work on a gradient. I might not be yelling and screaming at them, but I just quietly took him aside and told him there'll be no video games for the weekend if he does whatever he just did again. That's a megaton for him, but from where you're sitting I'm just rubbing his back and telling him to cool down.
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I think what you described sounds like how to manage a child's behavior as opposed to outright discipline after an action.
It is really interesting to read as I don't have to ever really think of the long term (not being a parent myself).