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Originally Posted by MattyC
Just a question, as I don't have kids so I don't know how this feels from one side. But I've coached young kids for a long time so I have much experience reprimanding other's kids (obviously this is accepted in that forum):
What if he had used different language? ie: "Hey buddy can you please stop?" "Why?" "Because other people don't like it."
Is it just the "bad" in his words? He didn't say the kid is bad, he said screaming is bad. Obviously a kid probably doesn't realize the difference, but the parent should. Should he first ask the parent to ask their kid? Or should we all just suck it up?
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Heh, I'm the same. Don't have kids, (so yeah, grain of salt) but have done the stepdad thing a bit. Always get told I should have some of my own. The other dads themselves even often love me. I've been told that compared to a lot of parents nowadays I do have a stricter style, but I always try to mix it with a lot of positive reinforcement and understanding. They are kids, they will probably screw up every day. Hell most adults do. Every little thing is not as big as it seems.
Now I undetstand this revelation will have parents saying 'well, you don't understand the daily grind'. Which is fine. But that wasnt the question. This is about other people's kids. Which is becoming my area of expertise.
As for what I didn't like about that interaction, it wasn't necessarily the 'bad'. If he used it right that's fine. The action is bad, not the kid. It was more just the interaction in general. A screaming kid is a small deal. It's annoying as hell, but unless your personally involved, say running the store, it's a common thing and probably best left to the parent or guardian.