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Originally Posted by Hack&Lube
Yes you can. She just sounded bored though. I would throw expectations like this out the window. Every girl is different. Asking personal questions is a very default and boring way to have a conversation with someone and sometimes is just not an exciting date or what people want to talk about. It's extremely generic, sometimes too serious (turn off), and not fun at all. For some people, their childhood or their jobs are actually boring and not what they want to talk about when they are out looking for some fun with someone else. Deeper questions can be really un-fun and a big turn off.
Be funny, be weird, do whatever it takes to make her laugh. Don't ask about pets or passion for homes or family or favorite food as a kid or B.S. like that if the mood isn't right. You'll just get one-word answers and kill conversation. That's why there's no spark. Your expectations may be ones which are unbelievable, not hers.
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I can see how personal deeper questions may be a turn off to some women. I fortunately, didnt ask her a lot though, maybe 5 throughout the entire date and they were spread out. I still made sure that we had a lot of goofy silly chat, which we did.
But I think for me, thats the best part in getting to know someone new is learning who they are on a deeper level. So theyre into so and so sport as a hobby, it gets me curious on what got them into it, or if they play it too or just watch it, etc. Thats the best part about learning more about them. I guess Im just fascinated more than the average person. Ive always loved learning about others when meeting them.
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Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch
She had made up her mind, and she didn't care much about you as a dating prospect and a person. At that point she was looking for the window in the bathroom mentally.
Usually I'm pretty good at reading the signs and that's when you start sabotaging the date. Rave about your last vacation in the forbidden zone, and how life would be cooler if we were all two dimensional creatures. When the Water brings her a water scowl at him and ask how much that refill costs. Even better when she orders something from the menu, throw your menu aside and then grumble "Guess I'm just getting bread now anyways, that is complimentary right?"
If you're going to waste your time you might as well get some kicks out of it. Who knows, she might see the humor in it and find new interest in you.
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Unfortunately thats true. She had interest at the start but obviously it fizzled. I will have to consider sabotaging the date once I get signs shes not interested as much as I was hoping because you are right, at least you can get some kicks out of it.